How to Handle the Fear of Losing


In this video Jorge Capestany discusses how to handle the Fear of Losing on the tennis court.

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  1. Carol Cox
    April 3, 2020 at 6:35 pm · Reply

    Thank you!. I am one of the older seniors who play on permanent court time and find great pleasure in getting the ball once more over the net. I enjoy the lessons and I look forward to each one. I miss DeWitt and my friends – watching the videos are enjoyable – maybe I can try to return a lob while facing backwards.

    • Jorge Capestany
      April 10, 2020 at 4:56 pm · Reply

      You’re welcome

  2. Fe Batoon
    September 6, 2018 at 8:54 pm · Reply

    Thanks, Jorge for reminding me to focus on performance goals. I’ve finished your mental toughness book and I always rewatch your videos before my tournament. I’m kind of nervous still, but not as much anymore. I can’t control the outcome, but I can control how I play. So thank you for giving me some peace about it.

  3. Lori Kiser
    June 20, 2017 at 4:23 am · Reply

    This is such valuable advice! I have been incorporating performance goals into my lessons and coaching for years and find it helps so much.

    I am not seeing where to print? Can you please send me the link?

    Thank you!

    • Jorge Capestany
      June 20, 2017 at 10:51 pm · Reply

      Sorry, the print is only for those on my website

  4. Curtis
    August 8, 2016 at 6:46 pm · Reply

    Still grinding out matches in doubles. Thank you for the positive advise, I’m always telling my partner to be patient and focus on one shot at a time and not the score.
    Your experience and teaching tips are the best.

  5. Brian Antecki
    August 5, 2016 at 7:29 am · Reply

    Great job with all work! Keep it up!

  6. cathy
    August 4, 2016 at 2:22 am · Reply

    Let me me clarify….student plays confident until its time to finish set…5-2, 5-1, or even 4-3 ( which i get)

    How do you help a player who’s up finish set

    • Jorge Capestany
      August 4, 2016 at 12:52 pm · Reply

      Cathy.. I address that very topic in my free mental toughness course that has 4 videos. The 2nd video in that series is title Closing out an Opponent. I would highly recommend you get that free course which has been downloaded more than 5,000 times by players in more than 65 countries. This is the link where you can get the free course…

  7. cathy
    August 4, 2016 at 2:19 am · Reply

    can you help me with a talented student who gets nervous when they are down. May e up 5-2 and then gets nervous to finish off set

    • Jorge Capestany
      August 4, 2016 at 12:52 pm · Reply

      See my response to your other comment

  8. Darohl M. Bomba
    August 4, 2016 at 2:07 am · Reply

    Coach Capestany:

    Fortunately for me and my players, I have had this discussion with them many times before. My stronger players are always overly concerned with winning LONG before they ever set foot on the competitive court. They tended before to worry about every single little action they took on the court – every missed serve, every long ball, etc. and therefore their conscious working brain was jammed-packed with junk!! I have talked with them many times about concentrating on the things they CAN control, which basically means every thing they do with the tennis ball coming from their own racket. This cleared out the junk and left them with a clear idea of what they needed to focus on in order to be more successful. Losing is a part of winning, but personal control of their own play gives them a better chance. Thanks for the corroborating lesson!!

    Coach D. Bomba

  9. Ray
    August 4, 2016 at 12:47 am · Reply

    If only we could get hold of those players who buckle because of the fear of losing and see what is stopping them from incorporating this great advice.

  10. Suzanne Senior
    August 3, 2016 at 10:51 pm · Reply

    This is brilliant advice. I normally get so upset and down on myself when I do a duff shot, and panic constantly when I get behind by several points or games, as I want to win so badly. Focusing on the things you can control is a great way to maintain self-respect and composure on court. Thanks.
    Have you done any videos about how to maintain self-esteem on court, especially in the face of adversity?

  11. Emil Michaels
    August 3, 2016 at 5:59 pm · Reply

    Hello Jorge.
    I watched the video and agree with you, this principle applies to all sports and competition in general. I have seen millions examples why players are stiff and don’t perform well, because of too much pressure from outside(parents, family, media, spectators), or inside(yourself).
    You have to remind yourself why are you on court, you’re there to play the game, and if you put an effort to play your best, you’re the winner regardless of the score. I have 10, 8 and 4 year olds all playing tennis and soccer. I was an International junior soccer player, later turned first tennis and soccer coach of my kids.

  12. Erny
    August 3, 2016 at 5:22 pm · Reply

    Greetings from Suisse, from a Mexican living here since 3 years back. I’m 67 and Senior champion of the 60’s category in my club. I really enjoy your tutorials with your lovely family…congrats. Never had a tennis lesson in my life. The wall was my one and only instructor, that’s why I really enjoy your teachings…they are super. Gracias y salud Jorge.

    • Jorge Capestany
      August 3, 2016 at 6:10 pm · Reply

      Keep it going Erny.. Gracias

  13. John Cervantes
    August 3, 2016 at 5:03 pm · Reply

    short, brief and concise, simply the best presentation on the fear and fear of losing!

  14. John Cervantes
    August 3, 2016 at 5:02 pm · Reply

    Excellent topic, great life skill!!!!!!

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