This video describes a potentially disastrous situation on the practice court and how I avoided it.
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Thanks for sharing, it’s alway good to look beyond the behaviour of others , all she needed was a big hug and to have someone cares what she was going through. Good being human, we always have to remember we are humans before we are tennis players.
Your story brings back memories of my 12 yrs. of HS coaching in Maryland… especially with the girls team. We had a few similar incidents albeit not as dramatic! As a coach, I always believe(d) that we should get ‘closer’ to our students. Compassion is always welcome on or off the court.
Keep up the good work.
Thanks for doing all you do ,day in day out . Listening and learning
Jorge, What a coincidence. I have some indoor tennis students that I teach twice a week. One male student was playing a practice doubles set and hit an overhead when at the net. He hit a female students on the other side of the net. This angered me because in this practice situation, nothing justifies TAKING THE CHANCE of injuring another student for the sake of a point. (My significant other has a permanent eye injury from a similar USTA League competition.) I waited until I had cooled down and then discussed the student with his wife of 3 decades. The new information I got from her allowed me to approach the situation differently (without the anger) and everything seems OK now after I talked to him. Even though I have been teaching tennis for about 18 years I still care about my students and perhaps over-invest from time to time. Thanks for your sharing your personal experience with us. Very best, TennisTom
Thanks for another good lesson. Really you care for players and to fellow coaches as well.
Jorge , thanks for sharing that story. What you experienced is known as a Paradigm Shift and like you said sometimes
we just don’t know what is going on in players or even coaches personal lives. Love tuning in to all your tutorials.
That was wisdom expressed. I am not a coach, but a tennis dad. Thank you for sharing. You spoke to my heart tonight.
Thank you for sharing Jorge. Very real life. We can all learn from this, both coaches and players.
Jorge – Thank you for sharing this personal story which speaks volumes, and will make us all better coaches and players!!
Great story coach! It definitely happens often
What a story and a tough situation but you handled it well coach.you are a mentor .keep up with the good work .
MO KHARBOUCH .
This story is very relative to my role as coach also. I teach my athletes and students to give a thumbs up or thumbs down if they are experiencing a situation in which they cannot talk due to emotion. They just give the hand signal and I know they will need some extra TLC that day!.
thanks for sharing.
Great idea Sharon
Jorge, great share. Anyone that teaches has been there…. I think. But not all of us have the wisdom to ASK A BETTER QUESTION before being aggressive. I’m glad your inner spirit reined you in. Being 16 years old is tough enough on our students…. hormones and all. As you indicated, sometimes it is really tough on us as coaches.
Thanks again for sharing….. made my day. Best thoughts.
many thanks jorge for telling that story,and especially you mention you had a lot of kids on that day,well done to you to keeping your cool.
Right on. Have had it happen too. If it’s out of their usual behavior I always ask Great info Thx
Hi Jorge, this is pattu from concord nh.
that was a great story, I have been in that situation more than a few times, fortunately I was able to hold back, and then find out they had a bad day in school or family what have you.
I am dying to get back on the crts to teach again, since I am out with a herniation in my back, since December, not sure surgery are not.
but your emails, keep my spirits up, and still hoping I will get back on the crts to teach again,
I miss it terribly .
Hope you get back soon.
Great story coach. It extends to all areas of life.
Thank you for sharing that situation, as a coach we often jump to conclusions without talking to the student. This is a great refresher, especially at this age when we think they just aren’t trying or don’t give a flip and this happens, eye opener!
Thank you , I will always keep this in mind. Bruce
Very good comments. As a PTR member, I like the way it fits our philosophy of not only helping a player improve their technical game but also to understand their psychological issues on the court.
Nice reminder! Compassion first-
u r right on the money coach !!!
empathy for others goes along way !!!
Excellent points well made! Often as a (mature) player, occasionally if I’ve had a rough day, I feel pressured to smile and carry on for the sake of other’s enjoyment. I will take your points on board Jorge and let the coach know
Thank you. Sometimes I get so focused on the goals I have for the day, I forget that kids come with whatever situations they have faced that day.
Great example. we all need to realize that compassion is really important, and to give people the benefit of the doubt before we take action. Thanks, Tim
Thanks for sharing Jorge.
I think it’s great that you touch on how there is so much involve in being a good coach than just teaching skill and teamwork..Being a sensitive to a student outside lives off the court is critical to their well being and ability to mentally play well too…thanks for great instructional videos too.
Jorge- you always put the best information out here! This is helpful and I make the most of these educational bites. I just had a similar experience last week. This keeps everything in perspective better. Thanks for all you do- it is helpful and appreciated
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